It can be really difficult to figure out why a baby is crying – are they hungry, tired, do they have a nasty nappy, have they lost their dummy, or do they just want to go home? If you have an eczema baby, there are even more things that they might be trying to tell you: they are too hot, is the itch just too much today? Added to that, getting hot and bothered really doesn’t help itchy eczema. By teaching your eczema baby a few simple signs they can tell you what the problem is (or isn’t) and you can remove some of the guess work.
Anecdotal evidence also suggests that if toddlers are able to communicate through signing they get less frustrated and consequently have fewer tantrums – also very useful in preventing eczema babies and toddlers from getting hot, sweaty and even itchier. We taught both of our kids to sign and in Max’s case had very few tantrums (he’s now nearly 5). The jury is still out on Zoë (almost 2) but I can think of at least one incident which could well have become very noisy if she hadn’t been able to tell us that we had just walked past some very yummy looking cakes and she wanted one – I still can’t figure out how I missed them!
But my baby is only 6 months old…
Baby signs require very little co-ordination so even young babies are physically able to sign. Babies typically realise that objects have names at around 6 months old and with a bit of effort from their parents, most babies can sign back (with understanding) at between 7 to 9 months old. Do remember that eczema babies have a lot to deal with so might take them a bit longer to learn signs than their non-itchy peers.
Zoë could sign ‘duck’ (learnt from her big brother) and ‘milk’ at about 7 months old. By the time she was 8 months old she was able to tell us whether she wanted more ‘milk’ or ‘sleep’ when we asked her. Her big brother’s progress was broadly similar, although we can’t precisely remember when he started signing.
Will baby signing affect speech development?
Yes – by speeding it up. A number of studies show that signing children have better language development than their non-signing peers.
Like most signing kids, ours sign at the same time as talking so we have been able to decode what they are trying to say much earlier than we would otherwise have been able. We can then repeat the word properly for them to copy; this word modelling is a key part of learning to talk.
It’s easy, you can start signing today
Start with just a few signs – we went for the usual crying triggers: ‘milk’, ‘nappy’ and ‘sleep’. Use the each sign whenever you say the word, especially when you are actually holding or doing the thing you are talking about. So if you are teaching the sign ‘milk’, aim to focus your baby’s attention on your hand (easier said than done), make the sign (see our video guide) and say ‘milk’ and then produce the milk. If you are teaching ‘nappy’, make the sign and say ‘nappy’ whenever you change their nappy.
You need to be pretty consistent so that they get to associate the sign, as well as the word, with the thing you are talking about. This takes a bit of remembering before it turns into second nature, so it’s worth starting early so you can get into the signing habit. We started when our two were about 4 months old, so that by the time they had started associating words with things we had got into the signing habit. As a guide, it usually takes around 4-6 weeks for a baby to learn their first signs – so you’ll need to be patient – but it really is worth the effort. Later signs are usually learnt more quickly.
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We loved the extra communication that signing gave our kids. What is your experience?
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